How To Flirt With Any Woman, Any Time. | Attraction

By T.P.(PhD)
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Are you tired of the cheesy flirting tips you read in the checkout line at the grocery store? Well, here are some tips that come from experience and science.

1. Smile. This sounds obvious, but it's actually controversial. One dating expert advises men not to smile too much when they're with women, because it signals "beta" male characteristics. Not smiling can generate a lot of tension in the right circumstances. However, the beneifits of putting a woman at ease usually outweigh all other considerations early on in the interaction.

2. Play off things she says or does. This is known as "passive" flirting, or "trigger banter". If you've ever been around a guy who "always" seems to have the right thing to say, you know how attractive women can find this. It's a sign of a quick wit and intelligence. Here's a secret, though. You don't have to just make stuff up on the spot. If you plan carefully you can come up with great "spontaneous-looking" responses to many common situations, and look brilliant when they happen. Example: a woman bends down to tie her shoe in front of you . . . you can say "wow, you're the third woman this week who has tried to propose to me. I'll have to get back to you later with my decision." If you don't like that one, make up your own and pull it out when the circumstance arises.

3. Be cocky. Every guy should try a little cockiness at some point in his life. I don't advise people to be jerks. And cockiness can run a little thin if used too much or poured on too thick. But most guys err on the opposite end and put themselves down in front of girls. At some point risk coming across as a little bit of a jerk just to know where that line is. Then learn how to stop short of it. A man who knows how to be cocky without crossing the line has a huge advantage with women.

4. Stand tall. So much of flirting involves having a strong posture. Imagine a string attached to the top of your head pulling up at all times. Try to align yourself in the direction the string is pulling.

5. Set an authority frame. Don't let her take on the role of your teacher. Girls will do this if you let them. Try to have things you can teach them. Teach them anything -- a tongue twister, the answer to a riddle, how to remember a list of numbers, whatever. Flirting will go much better if you establish yourself as the authority in the situation. And I'm not talking about taking a chauvanistic tone here. I'm just saying, be the one with the most to offer in the interaction.

6. Show enthusiasm. Practice this at home. Read the newspaper and just try to make even the boring lines sound way cool. Then transfer that enthusiasm to the things you're saying when you're flirting with a girl.

Flirting is very important. It's one of the most fun things in all of life if you know how to flirt well. Keep working on it, and take every chance you have to learn how to do it well.

About the Author

T.P. (PhD) is the author of "Flirting Decosntructed". Discover your flirting IQ with his free flirting quiz at http://www.alphamaleplanner.com/flirt_quiz.php

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