To Get Your Ex Back Play the Waiting Game | Relationships

By MollyLaws
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You and your partner have recently broken up. After careful consideration you have decided that the two of you not being together is just wrong. The planets aren't aligned that way. You belong together and you want to get your ex back.

You are certain that the break up is a huge mistake. You have the telephone, text and email all available to you. So what could be more natural than to contact your ex and talk it over.

But this is a critical time. If you try to talk to your ex now, so soon after the break up, you could put an end to this relationship forever. It will be difficult for you but you must have patience, you have to wait.

There Is A Reason For The Split

Remember, your break happened for a reason. Maybe for several reasons. You may not be able to see what caused the break up or if you know the cause maybe it just doesn't make sense to you so you tend to want to dismiss it as unimportant. But if you go blundering in now, soon after the split, begging to be heard, demanding that your ex listen to reason, your version of reason, you will only make matters worse.

Difficult as it may be for you, now is the time to play the waiting game.

Only you can decide how long to wait before making contact with your ex. The circumstances of the break up can help you make the best decision.

If the break up happened over quite a long period, wait longer. If there was a lot of anger when you broke up, wait longer.

Carefully consider how long the cooling off period should be before you initiate contact. When you have decided on a period of time that you think is appropriate, think again, and then double it.

Use Your Time for Self Improvement

You have a waiting period to get through so use the time for some introspection and self-improvement.

Think about the cause of your break up and your part in it. When the time comes to talk to your ex you need to be able to acknowledge your mistakes and your faults. You need to be able to assure your ex that you are aware of your less attractive qualities and are already taking steps toward improvement.

The best relationships are often the ones that nearly failed. The patience, self-control and practical self-improvement you practice now will pay off with a renewed and better relationship with your ex in the future.

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