Why You Should Include Sex Games in Your Sex Lives | Sexuality

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Regardless of how great your current relationship is, it's almost inevitable that your sex lives will become a routine. And before you know it, you and your partner have slipped into that mode where making love is `just another thing you do as couples'. So how do you prevent this from happening: include SEX GAMES as one of your bedroom activities!

Sex games are fun, exciting and help keep sexual tension high in the bedroom (or out of it too!). They are also great ways to bring out the `wilder' side of just about anyone. Think about it. Normally, you may not indulge in using food items when you're making love. But under the disguise of a sex game, everything is possible. You and your partner somehow become `other people'.

Unfortunately, not everybody is `game' to explore sex games. If your partner is one of them, then read on to find out how you can convince her to give it try.

The 3 Golden Rules of Sex Games

The worst thing you can do is to just whip out your sex games paraphernalia out of the blue. If you're lucky, your partner may find it amusing and give it a try... just this once. If not, she'll probably think you've lost it!

The best way to include sex games into your lives is to discuss it with her and mention all the advantages and benefits it can do not only to your sex lives but to your relationship as well. Mention too that sex games are great ways to slowly bring HER sexual fantasies to life.

To further get rid of her worries, discuss these three golden rules.

Agree to keep an open mind.
Nothing kills the mood of a sex game better than having this thought constantly at the back of one's mind "hmmm, this is probably not for me...". Instead, agree to keep an open mind to everything. The rule should be "I'll try it at least once and then decide if I like it or not." And when you guys do try a sex game, try it with real interest and passion. Remember: if you do it, do it good!

Agree to have a codeword.
Of course, not everybody has the same level of keenness to try different kinds of sex games. Some games may just be a bit too far for some. For instance, some of my male clients would just about try anything with gusto except handcuffs!

The best way to address this issue is to agree on a codeword that either of you can use. Once this word is spoken, it means that the sex game has reached it's `not fun anymore' level for that person and so the other must stop immediately.

Agree to keep your sex games private... or not.
Not all couples try sex games so it may be very tempting to inform your best bud on how hot your sex lives are. Before you open your mouth, discuss this with your partner. She may be worried about she will be perceived by your friends and as such not want such stories to leave your bedroom.

Of course, the same goes for you. She may want to rush off to her gal pals and give them every minute detail of what transpired between the two of you last night. Would you like that?

So to avoid any awkwardness, discuss this issue with your partner even before you indulge in sex games. Are you guys going to keep this private or not?

Sex Games - How to Get in the Mood

Just because sex games are fun and exciting and hot does not mean you (or your partner) are always in the mood for it. So what do you do if one of you wants to engage in sex games and the other doesn't? Following are some tips.

Start with a good, relaxing dinner! You guys can go out or just have a quiet dinner at home. However, be sure to dress up a little. Keep your work clothes on. As for her, ask her to wear those sexy high heels. (You won't believe how a woman feels 10x sexier the minute she steps into some killer heels!) Open a bottle of wine and just chill out.

Take a long, luxurious bath together.
Create a nice relaxing atmosphere. Dim the lights, light some candles, play some soft music.
Give each other a massage that can easily turn into a sexual massage if you like.

Do any of the above tips to relax your bodies and minds. These are guaranteed to put you in the mood for some serious sex playing afterwards.

About the Author

Gabrielle Moore is owner of The Female Orgasm Revealed, a site to help men please their female partners with an orgasm every time. For more information, go to: http://www.femaleorgasmrevealed.com

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