But instead of getting right to the heart of the problem the government is dealing with a result of the problem, an ailing industry... Like an ailing marriage.

For the most part men are clumsy and women are inarticulate when it comes to intimacy. In fact it is difficult to call the sexual interaction between most couples intimacy, at all.

The above five tips are just the tip of the iceberg. A truly happy marriage comes from unselfish and mature behavior.

By the time people have fumbled around in a marital relationship and are looking for divorce advice they are discouraged and confused. But the most simple advice for those who have children is don't do it, if there is any way at all to avoid it.

When I was 25 years old, I moved out into the country in Connecticut and built my own house on 55 acres of land. For the times (it was 1976), the house I built was considered outrageous. It was passive solar with a wood burning furnace as the backup. There were no windows on the north side of the house, while the south side was basically all triple pane glass. I even built a greenhouse that served as our dining room. Believe me when I tell you rural Connecticut in 1976 was not ready for a passive solar house. We were the talk of the town. But I had tremendous confidence in the concepts I employed in the construction, even though they were cutting edge. As it turned out my, confidence was well placed. During the winters it only took two cords of wood to back up the heat given us by the sun and stored by massive amounts of concrete. The laws of physics which were used to design the house as efficiently as it was, worked. It came down to the fact that I trusted the laws of physics even though they were not tested in many of the applications I utilized. I knew gravity worked equally for a stone or a feather. The physics of building a passive solar home were known. I just used the rules in ways that had not been done before. Similarly, I know the "physics" of relationships also work regardless of a particular set of circumstances. I know for instance, every human being responds kindly to words of love and support. I also know every human being responds unfavorably to words of criticism. When people came to my office for help with their failing marriage the first thing I did was get them to agree to stop hurting each other. Most people had no idea that they were throwing out hurtful barbs to their spouse. They had become so used to treating each other disrespectfully that my insistence on ending the attacks was often met with disbelief. But it didn't take long before one or the other would say something they thought was just an innocent statement, but was in reality a painful dig. Even when I busted somebody, they thought I was joking until I asked the spouse, "did it hurt?" and of course it did. Here are two ways to improve a relationship: Consciously stop every attack before it gets out of your mouth Consciously say sweet and wonderful things to your spouse The relationship you have is dynamic, that is to say it is constantly moving and changing. Think of it like a river that carries away anything you put into it. As soon as you stop polluting, dumping nasty stuff into the river, it becomes cleaner with each passing moment. If you stop polluting your relationship, it will improve immediately and if you start putting sweet things into your relationship it will improve exponentially. And by all means remember to tell the person you love, "I love you."

If you have answered yes to at least two out of the four questions you are not only compatible but you have the ability to have the happiest marriage on Earth.

Having a happy marriage doesn't require "fixing" each other or even yourself. You and your spouse are more than good enough to be happily married. Marriage only requires adjusting your behavior and communication to what is called for in a marriage

Compatibility is very important. So I have come up with the ultimate Am I Ready to Get Married Quiz.

Etiquette is a guide for behavior, not a law. Use bridal etiquette as guide, do not adhere the rules blindly, as each family and situation is unique and apply your common sense whenever required.

My personal view is that we must change divorce courts considerably. Presently the first step in the system is for one parent to file an “order to show cause,” a lawsuit against the other parent. This step should be made unnecessary except for rare and extreme situations...

There are very few tragedies that impact a child more than the splitting of his or her parents. The foundation for a child is their parents; both of them.

The reason why some couples have a difficult time when they first have children is because what they know and don’t know about being married is being tested...