How To Get Your Ex Back - Getting A Handle On Your Emotions | Relationships

By ClaireTourney
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If you have recently been through a break up and have been wondering how to get your ex back, ask yourself instead how you are doing emotionally right now? If you find yourself crying all the time at every sad song you hear or over anything that reminds you of your ex lover it's time to get yourself back together.

Experiencing intense emotional states is understandable and may also get you the attention you might feel you need right now, but after while your ex along with the other people in your life are going to tire of the drama and wonder why you can't seem to get yourself together.

The Hollywood stereotype of the moody, depressed lover may be popular on the big screen, but it isn't going to play well with your ex girlfriend or boyfriend.

And while you may not realize it, continuing to let your emotions run amuck can be a way of not facing the reality that there may be some things you need to change to have any chance of getting back together with your ex.

You also need to ask yourself if you are actually sad about the break up or are you ADDICTED to the feeling of sadness and heartbreak instead?

You really have to be careful here because intense emotions do release chemicals into our cells that become addictive over time and that's part of the reason you find people continuing in the same patterns, the same dramas and the same mistakes. Their cells are actually looking for that intense emotional fix that they have become addicted to and this triggers behaviors that will cause the emotional state all over again.

The best remedy for this is to be aware when you are doing it. Sometimes we get so caught up in our own dramas that we don't even realize that we are repeating the same behavior patterns over and over again. Once you start catching yourself doing this you experience an ah ha! moment and you start to reverse the pattern.

Now you will start to feel a little more in control and ready to take more positive steps to get back your emotional equilibrium and self confidence.

Feel good about the fact that you are getting wiser about handling your emotions and use this time away from your ex to work on yourself and what you need to change. Do things that make you feel better, stronger and happier and not only will you get more confidence, but you will also become more attractive to your ex. Now you are ready to begin learning how to get your ex back - the SMART way!

About the Author

Hi I'm Claire Tourney. Visit my Squidoo Lens How To Get Your Ex Back-The Smart Way to understand how your emotions may be hindering your chances of getting back with your ex and discover a PROVEN, effective plan for getting your ex back.

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