Get Back With Your Ex - Why A Hungry Dog Doesn't Get Fed! | Relationships

By ClaireTourney
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Perhaps you've heard the proverbial old saw about "Why A Hungry Dog Doesn't Get Fed". The logic behind this phrase is important for you to understand right now if you are serious about wanting to get your ex girlfriend, boyfriend, husband or wife back in your life and you have been acting a little needy or desperate.

Think about it. What do you do when a hungry dog shows up at your door? You probably know that you need to shoo it away, because if you feed it you will be stuck with that dog coming back over and over for another free meal and that dog will become a real nuisance. So you pick up the phone and call the Pound or the Humane Society instead.

But what happens if instead of a mangy mutt, a handsome well fed and groomed dog with a nice shiny collar happens to show up at your door? You can't help but admire that dog and you know it doesn't need you to feed it; it's obviously well taken care of and probably just lost or wandering around checking out the neighborhood.

So you feel a sense of relief, you know you're not responsible for taking care of that dog and you even think it might be nice to have a beautiful dog like that. Do you get the metaphor here? You don't want to come across to your ex-lover as a "needy dog" - you need to be the handsome, well fed dog instead.

Exhibiting needy behaviors such as calling too much or begging and pleading with your ex to take you back only makes you seem like the "needy dog" to your ex lover and this will push them away even more.

As you can see this behavior does not make you the least bit attractive to your ex, but the other thing you need to realize is that people tend to want that they can't have and if you are showing up at their door all the time looking for an emotional handout you certainly aren't that handsome dog that they admired but that's just out of their reach.

You see the real secret is that people like people who like themselves, who are emotionally secure and confident and don't "need" someone else to be happy.

So if you are serious about wanting to win back your lost love, give them some space for awhile while you get your head on straight and cut loose the desperate, needy behaviors.

Then you'll be in the best position to begin planning a SMARTER strategy to win back your ex.

About the Author

Hi, I'm Claire Tourney and I've got some great info on how you can get your self esteem and confidence back and get your ex back too. Discover a SMARTER strategy for getting back your lost love by checking out my Squidoo lens Get Your Ex Back!

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