Why You Should Touch a Woman Early in the Conversation | Dating

By DanTrump
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It happens again and again to men who go out looking for women. You say hi to a pretty lady, ask how her day was, maybe handshake, and talk for a few minutes with a two foot gap of space between you. Soon she gets bored and leaves, and you're wondering what went wrong.

Wasn't it going well? What happened?

In many cases, you just didn't touch her early enough. We're taught from a young age to be respectful and not "grope" a woman or start pawing her like a drunk animal. After all, aren't there a lot of sexual harassment suits these days?

First thing to remember is that a bar is not the workplace. Touching a woman affectionately when you meet her is not considered "disrespectful," even if you go too far. With all the drunk guys hitting on her, chances are she won't even remember you ten minutes later, if she leaves.

In fact, if you don't touch her at all the first five minutes, it becomes very awkward when you finally do start touching her. It just doesn't feel natural to touch her suddenly, so start early.

You should touch the woman as soon as you medet her. Put your hand on her shoulder when you introduce yourself, or your hands on the shoulders of the girls closest to you, if there's two or more. You can keep touching as you gesture and make a point, as well as shake hands. A playful tap, or push is nice too.

When you start off touching like this, you are perceived as a generally touchy-feely guy who does this all the time. This gets women very comfortable with your touch early on, and makes it a lot easier to take things to a higher physical level later in the night.

Now, if this is a bar or club, you can actually go even farther and get some sexual touching in. You can lean in, whisper in her ear, and pull her into you, waist to waist, and maybe push her off, so she gets a surge of emotion from being around you. It may feel weird to do this at first, but over time, it'll be very natural. Give yourself permission to be "creepy touchy guy" for a night. You can rub your hands lightly over her arms, brush her hair out of her face, and get romantic. If any female friends tell you this is too aggressive, just go to a hot bar or club and see how men are interacting with women there. If you think it's just boyfriends and girlfriends doing this, think again! Go up and ask, they will have just met that night, in most cases.

You now have the basics of what it takes to begin climbing up the touch ladder with a woman you just met. The more you do this, the easier it'll be to take greater steps like kissing and inviting a woman to go home with you. Go out regularly, and don't fret if you fall flat the first few times. Just have fun.

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