What Natural and Lasting Attraction Really Means to YOU | Dating

By SarahLove
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Picture this achingly familiar scenario: You have been dating a great guy, you have a close relationship, things are going well. Soon though, he starts to withdraw, gets distant, does not call or come around. Eventually he gives you the "I'm not ready" speech, or "Its not you, it's me", etc. Did you take notice, though, of what you did when you first realized he was withdrawing? Did you know that women normally exhibit 1 or more of 5 behaviors? Check this out

The first behavior is to try to become his "buddy", staying close to him and trying to help him with his problems. You do this because you think he will soon recognize what a wonderful relationship you have.

On the other hand, you may try to create jealousy in him by dating other guys, even if you are not interested in them. Or perhaps you just TELL people you are in hopes that it will get back to him.

You might also pretend that he is not hurting you by withdrawing, and that a casual relationship is fine. Of course, you will still have sex with him to keep him coming over, but you mask your hurt and never let him see it.

You might guilt-trip him, give him an ultimatum, or tell him he is childish and not a real man, hoping that he will stay in the relationship in order to fix himself, and will, naturally, grow to love you and thank you.

Lastly - you may try to compliment him, baby him and serve him in any way you can think of - going way out of your way to do things for him - again, in hopes that he will see how he cannot live without you.

ALL women do these things at one time or another. It is so strange, too, because these things do not work! Ever see hordes of dead frogs on a road on a rainy night? Same concept - others go before us and die a miserable death, but we hop out on the same road into the same traffic thinking, well, it will work for me. ThenSQUASH!!!

So what will work for this situation. Well - I hate to tell you - there is no magic phrase, line or bullet. Nothing is going to magically bring him back. What does work, though, is LEARNING what will make a man feel that natural and lasting attraction that will keep him in your relationship.

You need to begin to understand what creates natural attraction, and what maintains it in healthy, stable relationships, and bring that into your own relationship. In other words... the biggest challenge most women run into when it comes to "breaking through" to men and getting past the surface dating stuff and into a real relationship with a real man is not being able to see past their own MINDSET and the approach they've been using that hasn't worked.

Dr. Phil always says that change starts "with you". Learn how your mindset effects the interpretation of things that happen within your relationship, and begin becoming aware of what you need to do to effect positive change in your own domain.

When you become able to create natural and lasting attraction in your own relationship, you will see your relationship begin to really bloom - becoming richer, fuller and more meaningful with each passing day as your attraction and bond grows deeper. Do yourself and your partner a favor and learn today what creates this beautiful foundation for a relationship.

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