A Change In Strategy Can Help You Get The Guy! | Personal Development

By SarahLove
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Human natures allows or even enables each of us to use our intelligence to build strategies that keep each of us from suffering from the greatest of heartaches, rejections or embarrassments. Some people use strategies that include pushing, hounding, whining, pleading or even lying. Most of the time, though, these methods backfire.

Women develop strategies, as well, when it comes to attracting a man's attention or interest. Some women are fairly good at it. Some are not. And sometimes all it does is make the man nervous and uncomfortable.

One such strategy that women use is actually bribery. It is not bribery like you typically think of it, but rather bribery where the woman tried to be since, helpful and basically indispensible to the man so that he will begin to fall in love with her and need her.

The second common strategy that women use is called "compulsion". This is when a woman attempt to coerce a man into telling her he has feeling for her by expressing or confessing her own feelings for him. She thinks that if she pours it all out to him, he will naturally do the same to her and the relationship will really begin.

The third strategy women use is to simply have sex with him in order to develop the "instant relationship". This nearly always backfires, because SEX, to a man, DOES NOT a relationship make. It is simply sex, and he will take it if you give it to him, and why should he give more if he can get that for free?

So exactly why is it that these strategies do not work, when they seem so intuitive to do? I mean, why wouldn't you be nice and do things for someone you want to attract? Why wouldn't you try to get him to talk to you about his feelings for you, or even have sex with you in order to make his realize those feelings?

The reason they don't work is that these actions communicate to a man on a MUCH DEEPER LEVEL than the words. It communicates to him that you are NEEDY, and you are fearful and possibly even desperate.

That is totally opposite of what you were trying to accomplish, isn't it? But that is what he sees when he sees these kinds of actions. And that is NOT attractive.

In that case - what DOES create attraction with a man? The right attitude is certainly something that can lend to your appeal. Instead of appearing needy or devious - try presenting an attitude of worth, dignity and maturity to him. Show him that you expect his respect, and that you expect to respect him as well.

In addition, you can try to show him with your attitude that you are not afraid to help him maintain his friendships with his buddies, and you will expect the same from him. You can show him all this - that you are not a follower or groupie - but that you are your own woman, with a great attitude.

So begin the transformation of your love life by transforming your outlook and attitude, and see just what a smart, healthy, attractive and worthwhile woman like yourself can accomplish with such a small change.

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