How To Express Anger | Inspirational

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Anger is essential to our survival since it is required to stand up for ourselves if ill-treated or to defend ourselves when attacked. Anger becomes unhealthy when it is suppressed for too long which can lead to aggression. We must avoid expressing anger by throwing tantrums or screaming but, instead, calmly expressing it in an appropriate manner, at an appropriate time. Else, it can cause much harm to our health and our relationships with others. Below are some tips to express anger in a healthy manner:

- It is perfectly justifiable to be assertive when expressing your anger, but not aggressive. State your point and repeat it, but do not make unnecessarily hurtful and extreme remarks that you will realize you don’t mean as soon as you calm down.

- Never let an argument get out of hand – stick to the problem at hand and keep your anger in the present. It is never a good idea to bring up past hurt as this only adds to your anger, and before you know it you are fighting about something that happened years ago and has nothing to do with the current problem.

- Never express your anger in the heat of the moment. When you find yourself angriest is when you are likely to say the most hurtful things. Wait a few minutes, breathe deeply, and yes counting down from 10 or a 100 depending on your level of anger really does help! Promise yourself you will utter a word only after this time out.

- As a long-term solution, learn about what tends to trigger your anger. Once you know this, you will see a potentially angry bout approaching from a mile away and will be able to avert it by either explaining to the other person that you will not like what they are about to do, or by leaving the situation altogether, for instance, by just leaving the room.

- When angry, instead of blindly reacting, ask yourself rational questions such as, “What needs to change in this situation to make me less angry?” or “Is there another way in which I could deal with this situation?” Once you start figuring out answers to such healthy questions, you will find yourself going from reactive mode to solutions-oriented mode.

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