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The cause in most cases could be traced in some incident, impression or feeling which made a severe impact on the individual\u2019s mind during childhood. The very realization that the conditions now are different and the circumstances which prevailed during those days no longer exist at the moment would enable the individual to shed his complex.

The next important step to take was to do very thing, repeatedly and again and again, the very thing one is shy or frightened of doing. The individual will find out for himself that there is nothing to be afraid of, after all, practice, experience and habit will instill confidence in him. Self \u2013 confidence will return and slowly it will extend to all of his or her other activities. If one is afraid of darkness, loneliness, talking in public, talking to Strangers, talking to members of opposite sex,
Staying alone with the dead body or touching a dead body, one can get rid of the fear only by doing those very things again, again and again.

Another step considered was the necessity to dispel the obsession or illusion that others are watching and observing all of one\u2019s activities with keen interest. The assumption that others are constantly watching us, or are concerned with our activities, is a totally erroneous one. People are basically interested in themselves and not in others. They fail to notice things unless one really rubs in it. Under normal circumstances they are not bothered about the problems or performances of others. The realization of this basic human psychology will also help one to overcome his inferiority complex. We shall now proceed to consider the other positive steps one can take to snuff out inferiority complex and gain sound self \u2013 confidence.

One positive step is to face the fact boldly, accept the reality in the right spirit and look at things in an optimistic manner. First, find out what is your defect or deformity or deficiency which is bothering you. Can this be remedied or improved upon? Where one is born blind, deaf, and dumb or maimed, he or she can certainly seek medical help and see if things could be improved upon. If those things cannot be altered, there is no sense in worrying about them. Instead, one should accept them as a challenge and go ahead to attain his objective with redoubled vigour.

Just consider those who have attained success in spite of such severe and serious handicaps. Helen Keller went stone blind and yet she could do so much to alleviate the sufferings of the blind and otherwise incapacitated people. Thomas Alva Edison was stone deaf and yet he was able to bring about thousands of inventions. Franklin. D. Roosevelt was rendered invalid because of polio attack and yet he got elected four times in succession as the President of the United States. El Greco, the great painter, could hardly see. Mozart and Beethoven, the music wizards, suffered from serious aural handicaps. Napoleon was short, lacked height and yet gained incomparable stature and became one of the greatest generals that history could boast of. Bader with wooden legs became the best fighter pilot of the German Luft Waffe.

The secret, therefore, is that if your defect is basic, incurable or unalterable, accept the fact, take it as a challenge and make up your mind to make a mark in spite of the weakness. Once you are on the job, once you are on the move, you will forget about the defect. Your mind will be occupied about the tasks you have to perform and the problems you have to solve. Do not worry, fret and complain. Get up and keep going. You will find joy and confidence in our own country people with incurable diseases have become great business tycoons and benevolent philanthropists. The great Alagappa was afflicted with leprosy and yet he rose to be one of the great industrialists of this country in our land. He has left behind innumerable educational institutions in the fields of engineering, science, arts, and other research studies. He was not cowed down by his handicap. He accepted the challenge and gained success in spite of that.

May be you have come across many people like that yourself. Therefore, if the handicap is basic, let it remain and you go ahead in spite of that, face the challenge and come up on the top. Let it not get the upper hand. Think of those who have become great in spite of those stupendous handicaps. With the same handicap one can shine as Alagappa did or stand in the street corner begging for the very livelihood. Similarly, the lack of height may mean nothing to the one who decides to learn from the great Napoleon. If one, on the other hand, allows this factor to get the better of him, he would end up as a nervous wreck.

Fortunately in many cases, the drawback is not so basic. In some instances, one could easily convert the very handicaps into profitable assets. People who have funny faces have become successful comedians on the stage or screen. Too tall or lean people have excelled in the sports arena. It is for you to see, how, what you now think is a handicap, could be converted into a big asset.  In other words, you must look at it from a positive angle. Do not worry or fret over it. Instead try and see what advantage you can derive from it.

There are also certain defects which could be cured or rectified with some effort on the part of individual or with expert medical help. The great Greek orator Demosthenes was, to begin with, a worst stammerer. He could not utter two words tighter without a great struggle. But with determined and dedicated effort, he overcome the handicap and become the legendary orator. Similarly, many women with the help of modern plastic surgery got rid of certain facial disadvantages and turned themselves into alluring beauties. Thus if you are determined you can get over certain kinds of disadvantages either by individual effort or with expert help.

There is yet another important aspect which a person assailed with inferiority complex should ponder about By highlighting your strong points, you can easily black-out the weak points about which you are worried. Physical features, complexion, size and the like will recede to the background if you have certain talents to your credits. You can be an eloquent orator, melodious singer, able sportsman, talented actor, gifted artist, painter or sculptor, great writer and so on.  The famous Samuel Johnson, hero of Boswell, was a great conversationalist and writer. His uncouth physical appearance therefore did not prove to be a handicap for him.

Many girls compensate their lack of complexion or Greek features with inimitable charm, enchanting music or other skills. In everyday life you find handsome men marrying positively ugly girls and celebrated beauties choosing bald headed or even men as their life partners. Beauty is skin deep. Physical handicaps are forgotten or ignored when other unique talents are projected. The thing to do then is to find out your strong points, cultivate them to perfection and focus the spotlight on them. Never worry about your weak point\u2019s. Improve on them where possible. If incurable, just ignore them. Instead of worrying over your handicaps, concentrate on your strong points. Do not delude yourself that you have no strong points at all. It is just not right.

There is no one who hasn\u2019t got any gift whatever. They are just hidden and latent. You have locate them and bring to the surface. Once you project your strong points. People only see them and they never give even a fleeting thought to your handicaps. There are millions of fields in which a keen and interesting person could excel. If you have the will and perseverance, and if you put in sustained work, you will succeed. Success will bring you confidence and more success.

The best way to overcome the inferiority complex is, therefore to turn your mind deliberately away from the weak points and see only the outstanding assets, qualities, gifts and potentials. In essence, complex is merely a point of view. If you keep looking at your weak legs, inevitably you will get nowhere in life Juan Belmonte, the reputed matador, had weak legs and it difficult to jump out the way of the charging bulls. He did not lose heart but used his imagination. He used the cape to divert the attention of the bull. He never moved but made the Bull Run madly in all directions with his cape. Others soon followed his example. Many others with one or other physical handicaps have found it possible to sue their intelligence and become millionaires.

As you will readily agree, in this world money can practically get you anything in life except perhaps health and happiness. God has to bless one with a sound mind and sound body. Happiness is a mental attitude and you have it, money or no money. But any other thing and to a certain extent, even health and happiness could be secured once you have money. Why therefore, worry over your weak points? Use your gifts, turn the spotlights on them and make money if you can. Once you are rich, no one expect yourself will worry about your handicaps. When others are not bothered, you have no reason for the complex. Overcome the handicap if you can If not concentrate on the good things in which you excel. Put your best foot forward, excel where you can. Use your talents, keep yourself busy, and make money. Earn money, win name, lead and succeed.
 

About the Author

I, Mani Laxman Panse, myself being a Post Polio Residual Parlysis (P.P.R.P) Patient Physical Handicap Person with 100 % (percent) permanent disability .And this is my Dream that every HANDICAP PERSON Should not think of their Disability but they should overcome their Disability and should achieve Success in their Respective Chosen Goal

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